Imagine being in front of a heap of something containing all your concerns.
Divide the pile into two pieces, separated by things you are able to control and those you cannot.Take the pile of things that you cannot control and throw them in the trash.
Sweet! The number of things you have to think about has gotten less overwhelming!
Focus on What You Can Control
After you’ve cut the pile of your worries to those you can take action on, sort your worries in order of importance. Finally, concentrate on what you’re planning to accomplish and what it’s about, both in personal and professional life.
Begin by taking a look at the first item that you list. Then , ask you three things:
Which is the issue that bothers you?
Why should it bother you?
What are you going to do?
After you’ve resolved the issue you have solved it, move on to the next task on your list and work on your way down.
But wait. What happens if it’s a huge thing that’s difficult to determine in one go and moving forward is not that easy?
Just get started.
It is possible to do this by breaking up the bulk of the thing down into smaller, more manageable pieces.
This requires time and effort on your part. I can’t describe exactly what you’ll need to accomplish. It’s something you must determine by yourself, so be creative.
This could mean:
- Making a new to-do list.
- Journaling your thoughts is a great way to record your thoughts. journals.
- Making voice memos using your smartphone.
- Video memos can be recorded using your smartphone.
Don’t expect overnight success.
The problem is that the majority of major issues don’t have a quick solution.
Most likely, the solution will likely be the outcome of a series of small actions that need to be executed over a specified period of time. This may eventually result in the final resolution.
The key is that to get things done, you must align your attention on the things you are able to manage.
Don’t spend any more energy worrying about something else.
Instead, focus on the future, as once you’ve discovered your solution and taken action the problem is no longer a problem.
It’ll be done and gone.
For example, if you want to lose weight, you need to follow a poor diet, exercise, if it doesn’t work, try to explore alternatives, create a reward system, as it’s a big deal for you.
Don’t Worry About What You Can’t Control
I was an extremely timid child and I used to pray every night that God would guard me from the things which scared me, such as earthquakes, burglaries and fires.
In the process, I was afflicted with anxiety in my early years. These were unfounded fears I was not in control of. Being adamant that they wouldn’t occur would not have affected the outcome.
This pattern of behavior was evident to be spreading to other aspects that I was in as I got older, which actually made things more difficult, not less.
It’s safe to say that I’ve led a rather risk-averse life.
When I was in my early 20’s the perfect period to be open to new experiences, I set down and raised children when the majority of my peers were on the move and exploring themselves, as well as becoming educated.
This precocious “adulting” works for some however for me, it was a life I embraced with a certain resistance. I wasn’t quite ready to settle down; however, I did it because I was afraid. I wanted comfort more than anything else, and thought I’d be able to find it in those arms of someone with whom I wasn’t more in love with.
The marriage didn’t last long.
In the past, I’ve engaged in some self-discovery, and for the majority of the time, I’ve changed my perspective about things that I cannot influence.
Every now and then the feeling of anxiety can appear.
It was something I came across in the last few hours. I began to think and worry about the various things I’ll need to accomplish to reach my goals.
In the blink of an eye the time had passed by fifteen minutes. Then, thirty. When I realized the mistake I had made I snapped myself out of the situation and did what I had to do. However, it was at the expense of my own time. Three minutes of my time. Thirty minutes plunged into the dark abyss of time. No refunds. No exchanges.
Thirty minutes might not sound to be a lot, however, it could quickly become a lot if you’re not paying attention.
It is important to stay aware, paying attention to your surroundings, and the way you spend your time.
To be mindful of your body and mind, you need to be aware of both your body and your mind. You are the only person that can accomplish this. It requires time and effort. However, with the proper procedures in place, you will be able to achieve it.
In order to stay aware of your surroundings, you need to get rid of distractions and design an environment that is healthy.
In order to stay on top of your schedule, you’ll need to organize your time. Our time is the most precious resource. It’s not renewable.
Consider how much time you’re wasting using your mobile, in front of the television or engaging in other activities that have no added value to your life.
You’re not getting that moment back.
The reason for this is because the past is self-centered in the abyss.
Being aware is a talent. The process takes time to learn but once you master this ability, it is much simpler to eliminate unnecessary thoughts.
The more risks you’re prepared to accept, the better you’re likely to succeed.
Make a decision to take a risk in one aspect of your life, and you’ll feel less scared to make them a part of the other areas.
Here’s the truth:
In the limits in reality. The fears you’ve cultivated for so long don’t actually exist.
They only exist in your head. Once you are able to grasp the reality of it and refuse to let go, everything becomes less scary. Don’t let your anxieties rule your life.
Like my father Yoda says:
Try New Things
But you must wait. Yoda has just stated that there’s “no “try”.
He meant that trying is doing but not trying isn’t trying.
In other words, it is a part of performing, and when considered as a whole the term “trying” doesn’t actually exist. It is possible to do. There is also no.
Here’s a final piece of advice:
- Test different things.
- Discover what you love.
- Perform more of these things and similar things.
I tried this and realized that I am a fan of writing fiction. This is why I started writing every day.
It’s a constant process of exploring new ideas.
In all of this I’m exploring further the activities I like doing. It’s possible that I won’t continue doing all the things I’ve mentioned over the long run, however the most important thing is that I’m looking.
On the other hand I’m trying out different strategies for scheduling like bullet journaling or Google calendars to track everything.
Please let me know in the comments If you’d like me to discuss my strategies for scheduling and even experiments.
If you’re not sure what to do this could mean you should invest more time in yourself and determine your goal. Set a new task, learn more tips about a specific aspect, by listening to useful advice from a friend, reading a book, or watching TV. Give more space for positive thoughts, making things happen not the next week, but starting from today.